One of those nigths..

so after sleeping around 3 hours last night i find myself once again in front of my notebook - working...okay so what it the reason for my lack of sleep lately, i would love to say that i was out all night partying, getting drunk - however as many times in my life reality is a bit different! i didnt sleep much last nigth due to 2 reasons, first my partner was making the weirdest sounds all night - seriously she has this tendency to keep me up all nigth with the growling and mouning sound...which sometimes really gets on my nerves..what can i do - i mean everytime it happens i am frustrated etc.. but come to think about it, it is just one of those things that you need to accept.. speaking of accepting is that really what a relationship is all about, accepting your partner for what he or she is all about - good and bad, personally i had difficulties with this in the beginning, but it is getting easier - i guess i am getting more tolerant in my older days...

so what is / was the other reason for me not being able to sleep - well work! yes sad but true, i am reaching the point in my life where i cant sleep because i am constantly thinking of work...thinking about work, stress, finance, opportunites, the "what-if factor.." and more...right now the situation in our company is changing - as i mentioned earlier - we are waiting for a large investment into our company - but the obvious question to ask is "what if the investment doesnt come?".. i have thought about this and is thinking about this everyday, what are my alternatives, what are my opportunities...yesterday i talked to my partner about these issues - alot of emotion involved in this, because it is hard, if everything goes wrong, will we stay in slovakia, will we move to denmark - how will see cope with that? how will it be for her to leave her family and friends?... i did all of this so i know how difficult it can be...but on the other side i dont what to think these thoughts because i am happy with my job, i am burining for my job, i am brainwashed by my job..and i dont want to think about what if... but once in a while you have to be realistic and look reality in the eyes...so that is what i have to do...

so till our next time, be responsible...

The worst problem ever..or?

Yesterday i was having a conversation with my partner, right in itself having a conversation with my partner is not a big deal, more the topic...i am a lucky person because i have a real open relationship with my partner, which means that we talk and can laugh about basically anything, from primitive issues to serious issues.. so yesterday i dont how we ended up talking about this issue - but we ended up talking "faking the orgasm", okay so the conversation went on about the femal orgasm, guys this is actually where you can learn a lot about your partner and from your partner.. see i am not your "average joe" when it comes to the art of making love... no i am... listen i am kiding okay, i am fare from being "casanova" or "don juan" or even the italian lover... and you know what i am glad that i am none of them - i have nothing to prove, i dont need to be the best in bed, and honestly for me that would be rather boring as well...so knowing that i am not the italian stallion, i still believe that it is important for me to enjoy when we are together in bed, but i guess i do it different, first of all i like interlectual stimulation, laugher and making my partner comfortable with herself and me...for her to relax and enjoy, have a good mood is crucial i think..the whole intercourse process is over in a couple of minuts - okay i might not be the italian stallion, but it for sure takes more time than that....REALLY, HONESTLY!!!

right so why is it that some women they fake the orgasm, well as one of my friends from denmark would say "women fake orgasm, because they think that we men gives a shit about it..." this i think might be in one extreme, but really why do women fake it, i think that some women simply dont know what an orgasm is, so through faking the feel that this might be what it looks like, another good reason is that they want the whole process to be over faster, simply because they are not enjoying it..this is sometimes connected with a mental block! - seriously!! this i find sad, and the worst thing about it is that their partner are living in the safe fantasy that the women really is having an orgasm, because women can be extremely pursuadsive, i know this, my partner showed me yesterday...i didnt believe it till she started to fake an orgasm in our bathroom - honestly it was shocking...and i started thinking to myself - how many times did she fake when we have been together, and god bless her sould she said "never, i dont have to!!" - so that gave me a big ego boost...so maybe i am not the italian stallion, but then i am the DANISH PONY....

i have to admit that i feel sory for women that cant enjoy an orgasm, because sex / making love, is really all about give yourself to your partner, opening up totally, showing what and who you are, respecting the limits of your partner and vice versa, but most important it is about being one with your partner... - not that i want to sound like this romantic person or anything like that, but it is true...i read alot of these sex blogs, there is one in my favorit newspaper from denmark - yes ladies and gentlemen this is how important sex is in denmark to people, every newspaper or magazin with respect for itself has a sex column...i read these to try and understand the woman better, i am not saying that it is working - but it is nice to get a small look into the femal universe some once in a while...

speaking for myself i dont have a problem in getting an orgasm, honestly it is not at all a problem for me, i think and hope that it will never become one, but i think that the root to our problems with lack of "real orgasm" is because we are not only the x-generation, no we are the porno-generation, the porno industry is stronger than ever before, making billions and billions on showing people what "sex" is all about, so no wonder that we are a bit messed up, 10 years ago it was a crime to talk about "anal sex" or "blowjobs" no a recent research in scandinavia and UK shows that 85% of the femal teenage population doesnt even see "blowjob" as a sexual act - but more as a "standard service" - i mean this is hard. i personally see a good "BJ" a strong foreplay...but the whole problem is that sex is only sex nowaday (sex is even the fastest and strongest feeling tool when making advertisements!! - sex sells!), it has now in many cases nothing to do with feelings, tenderness, or love...it is a "fast in - fast out process", so no wonder many women dont get their orgasm...so what can we do, well first of all my advice to you is - if you need porno to turn your parnter on - that is first indicator that you have a relationship problem, second if you cant talk honest about what you want - respectively dont want, in your sexlife - there is a problem, if you cant listen to your partner about what she wants or doesnt want there is a problem...and finally you dont have to be italian to give your partner a good orgasm, you just have to focus on her, her body, her mind, and make sure that you dont only stimulate the lower parts of her body - but focus alot more on stimulating her upper part - yes you heard me "her upper part" - her brain...if you can stimulate that then the rest i believe comes automatically...and it makes sense to - i dont know a single women that wants to feel like a piece of meat only, they want to feel more, they want to feel that you are interested in the whole of them, from top to toe... and research shows that making a women laugh is one of the most important things that women are looking for in their partner....as well as having their partner challenge them interlectual...

so good sex is not only about the in-out part, but much more about your day-2-day communication, your mutual laugher, you challenging your partner.. the reach the ultimate orgasm - you need to have the mental orgasm first, and this is through communication with your partner only...so next time you feel the need to undress your partner, to tell your partner about your fantasies and what your are going to do to her / him... because this is all about mental stimulation...try it - it migth work just perfect for you... if you try it let me know how it worked out for you - dont be shy, we are all friends her!!!

so till our next time, girls start to relax and enjoy, and guys start to care...to wonderfull sex, because the world would be a better place if more people had better sex....

Doing it because you can...

Ever wondered what it would be like to say "hi" to a complete stranger, or to wish the clerk in the shop a nice day? have you everthought about doing it just for the fact of doing it? no reasons, just the pure abilities for you being able to do something good for another person, i mean why not, this i believe is the difference between being good and being a better person... i mean hell man, i never wish anybody anything unless i know them or the give me something for free - what can i say i am from denmark, i am not use to that, i come from a country where after living in the same building / apartment for 8 years i never not once talked to my neighbours... i mean not that they were crazy or anything - it is simply not tradition, it is not in our blood if you will! so know i was just wondering why that is - well now i live in an apartment near the center in Bratislava, where there is a bounch of old ladies living as well - and frankly speak they wont shut up - they constantly talk to you when you come or leave, i mean in the beginning it was getting on my nerves, constantly having to talk to people (bare in mind that i am the type of person that during my work day i talk alot - so in the morning or evening i want it to be quite...!!)..know after living the for a period of 6 months i am slowly getting use to it, but it took some time i must admit, until i realisted the obvious, if i just need to say goodmorning or goodevening and these ladies will have a nicer day / evening - then why not...

so after realizing that i am starting to communicate with everybody that cares to listen to me...which sometimes gives me great stories to tell, in the bus in the morning or evening...i mean why not - does it take that much effort from me if i reply or ask questions to people that a near and around me? no it really doesnt, it doesnt take a great effort, it is very easy - and you know what it is actually funny...i guess you can change these small little things if you really want to, however i still have to admit that i hate people bumbing into me on the street or in the bus - but this is because i am sick this way - i get nervous and close to panic attacts when people i dont know comes to close to me...so imagine me during the weekends when i am in the bar drunk!!!! ping ponging from one side to the other having panic - that must look so funny!

so my advice to all of you great people out there - dont get to close to me, because i might go crazy - no seriously, try to smile a little bit more, try to laugh just a little bit more.. and start to enjoy a bit more...dont be so serious all the time... and especially now with this type of weather, fuj, that gets the worst out in me, but hey stay optimistic only 6 months and then the weather will be better....

so till our next time :-)

Getting more traffic...

Not that i am complaning or anything, but can you please help me get more traffic to my blog, please i dont want to make you feel guilty or anything - but i have a big family, and a lot of bills that needs to be paid, and my children has to go to university, and we dont have money for food or anything.. - guys i am kidding, first i dont have a family like that, second i am not in it to make money, i do it for the fun of it... however for those of you how do have a blog add my link and i will see if i can do the same here... as i said this is my first time to enter the world of blogging etc... so be gentle.. but it is funny how many people are making money on blogging nowadays, and how good they are in attracting people to their blogs, i mean i am happy that my partner is reading my blog, so any more traffic is lovely... however am feeling a bit stupide when other bloggers are mentioning "dude yesterday i had 50.000 hits on my blog, dude!!!...", okay that is pretty cool i guess, my partner told me to be persistent and not to give up, and that i will reach that as well, thanks for the support baby, but i think not!!! okay if i do hit 50.000 people then i am definetely going to do something dramatically, like wear two different colored socks to work....no i will come up with something, or even better you come up with something, is that a deal?.....

so please guys give me more traffic, promote my blog to friends, family, and / or random people on the street....just kidding - i am sincerely happy that you are reading it...so dont be shy, drop me a line or mail me....

till our next time, dude.... where is my traffic.... (okay that is pretty stupid - taken from "dude where is my car" - for those of you that doesnt know this film, you are not missing alot...)

Finally monday...

Okay so i didnt write anyhing for the last couple of days, and i can tell you why, - i was relaxing, yes no work, no notebook, no meeting, no telephone meeting, no skype, just me, food and tons of films - now this is a holiday for me.. so how did i end up in this situation, well the unfortunate situation is the my partners mother is having some health problems so my partner had to take help her during the weekend leaving me all alone at home... so friday after work, me and some of my colleague decided to have a couple of drinks and i must say that it actually stayed at that just a couple of drinks, didnt get absolute waste or anything like that - went home, and watched television till the early morning...i guess i am geting old, or more mature, since i am no longer able to party to the early morning without being "dead" for days... so saturday i stayed in bed, went to the shop, got back to bed, ate, got back to bed, watched my first movie, prepared some more food, more tv....and so it went on and on.. till i finally went to sleep... so now you might think that i didnt do anything serious during the weekend but - but....i went to the gym!!!! yes i was almost hours in the gym, working out - and working out hard, okay let us face it i will never become the new arnold...or anything but at least i did feel better, so now i can wait another 3 weeks before i go there again...and then in the evening i spend my time with my partner - so all in all i must say that sunday was one of the most productive sundays in a long time...

okay so now what - what else is new?, well today i am working rather hard (hard doesnt mean stressed or anything like that - hard for me means that i have to use my brain...) today i am finally working on our new business model for our company - anybody ever tried to make a business model - well it is all about getting it all together and making sure that it sticks together and that it works... and this is very difficult, becasue you are making something based upon what it was in the past and what you want it to be in the future, but really you dont have to many guiding points... so it is kind of working in the dark...so right now nothing really interesting from my side - well actually we are preparing our consulting concept so this should be ready till friday so then i will try and share it with you..

so till our next time "isnt it greate that it is monday?.."

Just another one of those days..

Without doubt i can tell you that this has not at all been my week!! stressed and nervous i went home from work yesterday, had a extremely bad mood - managed to take it out on my partner, eventhough i told you i was going to behave, i guess reality is not always what you want it to be.. so i tried to go to sleep at a civilized time, couldnt sleep! eventually slept at around 3.30 in the morning - mind you that i was sleeping on the couch last nigth, my partner gets up at 5.45 so you can imagine just how i feel, didnt have time to have my coffee till now, smoked god knows how many cigarets, did my lunch in front of my notebook... but this is not the thing that makes me think to myself - "why did i leave my bed..?", the problem is that when you enter work, and within the first 5 - 10 min you have a fight with your partners (here i mean the group of people i work with and dont share bed with!!) and a lot of bad words are being used - the reason for our mood and this amount of nerves is that we are working on this investment as i already mentioned, and just sometimes it feels like we are walking around in circles, and nothing is coming out of it, and it is frustrating as hell, the energy and the time that we / i have spend on this project is really alot..so for us not to get anything out of it - will be a nightmare!!

i guess my problem is that i am extremely pessimistic when it comes to trust people while doing business, i have had enough bad experience with people promising me everything - and actually nothing comes out of it..so i seem my role in the whole investment process as being the watchdog - the cynical one, the one challeging the investor to make sure he is not wasting our time.. however it is difficult to find a perfect balance, between believing and disbelieving, and through this motivate or demotivate my partners...and this i think is the problem, they see me as suppose to be a motivator, a believer - to believe that everything will be fine, super duper... but i rather look at the real picture and calculate my chances of success and prepare for failure and success...i am not the type of person that starts to spend money before they are in the bank..and even then i have my concerns..so guess what i am trying to say is, that it is okay to be a dreamer and an optimist, but the fall you take when things dont go your way are alot harder than when you are a realist..the join of having the project go through is for me equally exciting, because i really want to believe - but i simply lost my ability or capability to be a super-optmist..(dont feel sorry for me - i dont see it as a strong disadvantage!!!)

so what now, having had the figth with my partners, well the air is a bit thick right now, and i know that it is not over just yet, there is more to come, because i guess this is how we do it - how we clear the air, by shouting, telling bad words about each other, for them to re-focus and solve the problems that we should have solved at in the very beginning, it reminds me of two monkeys figthing, banging on their chest etc... stupidity!!!

So as to motivate myself a bit today - as Johan Carlson old CEO of SAS (the airline company in scandinavia!!) "what doesnt kill you, makes you stronger.." - okay what a complete asshole to say something like this, because i can tell you that this is not really the feeling that i have right now - that this fight makes me stronger...i am having the feeling that i just wasted 1 hour of my life on something this destructive...so Johan Carlson - thanks but, no thanks!!!

so to answer my own question, why did i leave my bed today - well to make sure that i am looking even more forward to getting into it tonight..

till our next time goodnight..

Why women always knows best..

Ever got that feeling (if your a man!) that your girlfriend, partner or wife knows best.. well get use to it!! because it is the reality...objectively or subjectively speak we men dont stand a chance when it comes to the opposite sex, no chance in hell, it is per definition not posible! whatever it is about women knows best, the only thing you can do if you have half a brain is to accept it - dont fight it, just accept it! look at like this, who decides when to have sex / make love - you or your woman, if you decide, consider yourself a very lucky person, if not welcom in the club..i always thougth that i decided about this but no! boy was i wrong, my partner decides when and if we are going to do it!!! - you are in the mood for a little bit of action - and your partner is not, the excuse or reply is "you only want sex from me..", or she starts to talk about how her day was, and when you start to move in for a little bit of action, here it comes "you dont respect me when i talk, my job is not important to you.." or she starts to talk about her friends "do you know what janka did today..." i am lying and waiting for some action - "no i dont know what janka did - and frankly speaking i dont care!!!" and if this doesnt work then of course there is the classic "baby not tonigth - i have a headache..."

so now establishing the fact that women are in control, where does that leave us men, well we are / might be the boss at work, between our friends but at home no way... i accept this, and you know what it is okay for me, (the sex part is not!), there is only one person that really knows how to piss me off and that is my partner, and there is only one person that can make me feel like i am i heaven - yeps, the same person, for me it makes sense, it is like ying and yang, look at it like this - love and hate, the more she can piss you of there more she can make you feel good about yourself - and in the end the only thing that matters, you and your partner feeling good together... oh the power of women is wonderfull - personally i love the fact that no matter what i do i am always wrong when it comes to our figths (okay often i am - but what are the chance of me always being wrong - in my relationship rather high!!) my partner has this amazing ability to remember everything i say and do, even when she is drunk, and my god is she good in mentioning it - in our arguments, women have perfect timing when it comes to this, how many time have i been in the situation where i could say okay - game over for my partner, and then it comes "remember what you said when you were drunk.." listen i cant even remember what i say when i am sober, what makes you think i can remember anything when i am drunk, but instead of saying "baby no i dont remember i was drunk.." to admit it, i say "of course i can, and..." okay this is the worst thing that you can say - because your partner has you right where she wants you.. and it is just a matter of time before she goes in for the kill...reminds me about how cats are playing with mice, just playing with them... only to end up killing them, women are the same - they are cats - just playing with you, on their conditions...!

so is it all bad, well looking at the society that we are living in right now - no wonder women have the control, everyday you hear women talk about that the perfect man knows how : cry, show his emotions, cook, clean, take care of the children, be in touch with his inner self, listen, communicate, be sensitive, romantic, buy flowers, make love, cuttle, show passion, etc.. the list is endless.. then a couple of days later you read that, real women want : a macho man, that doesnt shave, doesnt care about emotions, is into sex, forgets birthdays, and in general is an asshole... so here it comes this profile of what women wants is changing more frequent than i change my socks... so no wonder that we men are a bit messed up in our minds, i come home to my partner and i think, does she want this or that, soft or hard, cry or fart, love or sex... and you know what the funny part is if you ask your partner - "so baby tonight you want me to be soft or hard.." she will tell you this "after all this time together you still dont know what i want... you dont listen...you dont care..." and then before you know it your are sleeping on the couch with your turtles... not that i have tried that of course!!!

did you ever get the feeling that your partner is trying to make you jealous on purpose.. i do! do you know why - because they want to know that we care, what i dont understand is why does this make them think that i care, honestly i get pissed of, as a civilized person, jealous yes i do become jealous - i hate myself for it, because it is a sickness, that doesnt do any good to your relationship..i rather have my partner communicate with me, tell me that she needs to hear that i care - instead of her flirting with other guys to get my attention... however i am the lucky one, my partner has many talents, one of them is to tell guys what to do to themselves once the try to flirt with her, and in very hard words, she tells me that she doesnt need it, however i still get jealous and i think that she likes it - to a limit of course.. but you know what if i didnt get jealous i think it would show that i dont care much for my partner.. and this i dont want to show her because i do - and alot, okay i am not equally good in channeling this into something tangible for her.. but i think and hope that she gets the big picture..

on a closing note my partner has this ability - i told you already she is very talented, to always know what i need in my life, in the beginning it was annoying as hell - and sometimes still is, because i look at it like this - how come she knows better than me, and it really upsets me, when other people knows more about me - than myself.. but the i finally understood it, she doesnt do this to make me mad, or to piss me off, she does it because she loves me, and honestly wants what is best for me - totally non-selfish way of thinking, and a bit new for me to honest..and it takes a great person to do something like this, to say "you know what, i think that it is better like this.." regardless of what i migth cause of pay, without thinking about oneself... this is what love is all about i guess..because by the end of the day it is easy to just agree with eveything i say or do, but it is different when she looks at me and challenges me to become better, stronger etc.. and this is what my partner is doing, she is not just telling me that i am great and super all the time, but is as well telling when i am not, when i make mistakes, when i am tickhheaded (okay it happens that some once in a while i am - okay dont make a big deal out of it!!) my partner wants what is the best for me, and through this wants to me to be better, even if it makes her sad, so you know what i dont have a problem with the fact that my partner is always right - when she is able to do these things, she has my respect, and my appriciation..because she is sacrificing herself for me, do you do that? did you do that? - because i forget to do this..i forget because i dont think it matters, but i know that it does!!! for me doing this makes the different between being a person and being a good person..

so guys my advice to you is the following, you loose the figth to win the war, dont be so proud like me and create conflicts that are not there only to be right, know when you bow down and when to fight and show what you feel, and show it whenever you have the chance.. and now i am going home just to do - "baby be ready daddy is coming home..."

till our next time, show them that you care...because you can!