The worst problem ever..or?

Yesterday i was having a conversation with my partner, right in itself having a conversation with my partner is not a big deal, more the topic...i am a lucky person because i have a real open relationship with my partner, which means that we talk and can laugh about basically anything, from primitive issues to serious issues.. so yesterday i dont how we ended up talking about this issue - but we ended up talking "faking the orgasm", okay so the conversation went on about the femal orgasm, guys this is actually where you can learn a lot about your partner and from your partner.. see i am not your "average joe" when it comes to the art of making love... no i am... listen i am kiding okay, i am fare from being "casanova" or "don juan" or even the italian lover... and you know what i am glad that i am none of them - i have nothing to prove, i dont need to be the best in bed, and honestly for me that would be rather boring as well...so knowing that i am not the italian stallion, i still believe that it is important for me to enjoy when we are together in bed, but i guess i do it different, first of all i like interlectual stimulation, laugher and making my partner comfortable with herself and me...for her to relax and enjoy, have a good mood is crucial i think..the whole intercourse process is over in a couple of minuts - okay i might not be the italian stallion, but it for sure takes more time than that....REALLY, HONESTLY!!!

right so why is it that some women they fake the orgasm, well as one of my friends from denmark would say "women fake orgasm, because they think that we men gives a shit about it..." this i think might be in one extreme, but really why do women fake it, i think that some women simply dont know what an orgasm is, so through faking the feel that this might be what it looks like, another good reason is that they want the whole process to be over faster, simply because they are not enjoying it..this is sometimes connected with a mental block! - seriously!! this i find sad, and the worst thing about it is that their partner are living in the safe fantasy that the women really is having an orgasm, because women can be extremely pursuadsive, i know this, my partner showed me yesterday...i didnt believe it till she started to fake an orgasm in our bathroom - honestly it was shocking...and i started thinking to myself - how many times did she fake when we have been together, and god bless her sould she said "never, i dont have to!!" - so that gave me a big ego boost...so maybe i am not the italian stallion, but then i am the DANISH PONY....

i have to admit that i feel sory for women that cant enjoy an orgasm, because sex / making love, is really all about give yourself to your partner, opening up totally, showing what and who you are, respecting the limits of your partner and vice versa, but most important it is about being one with your partner... - not that i want to sound like this romantic person or anything like that, but it is true...i read alot of these sex blogs, there is one in my favorit newspaper from denmark - yes ladies and gentlemen this is how important sex is in denmark to people, every newspaper or magazin with respect for itself has a sex column...i read these to try and understand the woman better, i am not saying that it is working - but it is nice to get a small look into the femal universe some once in a while...

speaking for myself i dont have a problem in getting an orgasm, honestly it is not at all a problem for me, i think and hope that it will never become one, but i think that the root to our problems with lack of "real orgasm" is because we are not only the x-generation, no we are the porno-generation, the porno industry is stronger than ever before, making billions and billions on showing people what "sex" is all about, so no wonder that we are a bit messed up, 10 years ago it was a crime to talk about "anal sex" or "blowjobs" no a recent research in scandinavia and UK shows that 85% of the femal teenage population doesnt even see "blowjob" as a sexual act - but more as a "standard service" - i mean this is hard. i personally see a good "BJ" a strong foreplay...but the whole problem is that sex is only sex nowaday (sex is even the fastest and strongest feeling tool when making advertisements!! - sex sells!), it has now in many cases nothing to do with feelings, tenderness, or love...it is a "fast in - fast out process", so no wonder many women dont get their orgasm...so what can we do, well first of all my advice to you is - if you need porno to turn your parnter on - that is first indicator that you have a relationship problem, second if you cant talk honest about what you want - respectively dont want, in your sexlife - there is a problem, if you cant listen to your partner about what she wants or doesnt want there is a problem...and finally you dont have to be italian to give your partner a good orgasm, you just have to focus on her, her body, her mind, and make sure that you dont only stimulate the lower parts of her body - but focus alot more on stimulating her upper part - yes you heard me "her upper part" - her brain...if you can stimulate that then the rest i believe comes automatically...and it makes sense to - i dont know a single women that wants to feel like a piece of meat only, they want to feel more, they want to feel that you are interested in the whole of them, from top to toe... and research shows that making a women laugh is one of the most important things that women are looking for in their partner....as well as having their partner challenge them interlectual...

so good sex is not only about the in-out part, but much more about your day-2-day communication, your mutual laugher, you challenging your partner.. the reach the ultimate orgasm - you need to have the mental orgasm first, and this is through communication with your partner only...so next time you feel the need to undress your partner, to tell your partner about your fantasies and what your are going to do to her / him... because this is all about mental stimulation...try it - it migth work just perfect for you... if you try it let me know how it worked out for you - dont be shy, we are all friends her!!!

so till our next time, girls start to relax and enjoy, and guys start to care...to wonderfull sex, because the world would be a better place if more people had better sex....