Monday 1 September 2008

So the conversation is here...

So after having given it some thoughts i have decided to address one issue that just pisses me of (pardon my language) it is a theme that really splits people in two groups - those that have and those that doesnt have, yeah okay then of course there is the one group - those that wants to have...

what am i talking about here.....did you guess it... yes it is kids...those little ones that cannot be re-funded when you get tired of playing mom of dad...okay that wasnt nice! But here is a story that will show you what i am going through with my friends...

So i am a godfather - no not like Brando or Pacino... i have a god daugther and she is wonderful - in portions that is!! - i am a young guy (relatively speaking, turn round this sept. ) but i cannot see myself with kids, i do not in my wildest dreams imagine myself with small kids on the arm, smelling, drowling and whatever it is that they do... okay - so i know that i dont like kids, i know that i dont want kids, i know that i would most likely stink as a father - but does that make me a bad person....? no it just makes me a person that doesnt want that sort of responsibility and commitment - i am free, free like the wind..(am i overdoing it here...) i dont want seriously to be a father!!

for that part my partner is okay with that she has one already, and i would have my doubts that she would want another one....!! but you know what makes me frustrated, it is when my friends are telling me that "you are not complete without kids..." or "your life is without any meaning without kids..." and the list goes on and on and on and on....but here comes my reply, what do you know about my life...i am not saying my life is perfect, but i am thereby as well not saying that there is nissing a kid in my life - just for the fun of it... having a kid for me is a lot of commitment, responsibility and money (here the list goes on as well) it is all about love, about caring, about teaching and learning and and and.... but what if i dont want that, what if i Martin Nielsen choose to live a life without kids - does that mean that my life is empty - because i can only be complete if i have a kid?!

Okay so what is my point, my point is very simple: what makes you satisfied, doesnt neccessary make me satisfied - correct?, so what makes you happy doesnt have to be what makes me happy - correct?! So what on earth makes people believe that only by getting a kid can i be complete or happy or..... this is complete rubbish!!

i am happy for those of you that have kids, i am happy for my friends that have kids, but please next time i come around - dont start to push kids on to me....and please dont start to talk to me about how much a kid is missing in my life...and how great my life would be if i had a kid -- i am not like you... getting a kid is not something i plan to do....

yes here comes the smart reader - what if your partner wants another one... point taken, my answer not with me!

oh and here comes the even smarter reader - but you dont know what the situation will be like 5 years from now - Correct Einstein and neither do you, so yes i migth be worong, i migth change my opinion - but it is my life, so i am allowed to do that... but i dont need anybody to tell me that i should - it has to come naturally, if it indeed comes...

so salude and long live the free men....

 
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