Something that i just have to share with you..

So i was sitting in the bus just a couple of hours ago, going home from work, it has been a very stressful day, so looking forward to get home, eat something, be with my better half..so sitting in the bus minding my own business, in enters this old man, i know him from when i go to work, he is homeless, selling magazins to people on the stress..it looks like the weather already is getting the better of him, his cloth is torn, didnt have a shower or a shave for to long a time - i wonder when the last time was, when he had a full stomach, and a nice bed to sleep in.. so he enters the bus, and rigth away the busdriver comes - "get out of my bus, you are not allowed to sell magazins in my bus.." - i mean what is wrong with this person (if i can call him that - rather call him a primitive subject!), the old man is speechless, doesnt put up a figth, to many situations like this, to many people not wanting to know of him, to many times been told that he is not wanted, the man is helpless, and then it comes, the bus driver continues to shout at this old helpless man.. and the one young guy stands up for the old man - "who the hell do you think that you are", a older lady starts "he is really not doing anything wrong.." and after a bit of time the whole bus stands up for this old man, and the bus driver finally crawls back to his hole and drives on...

the face expression of this old man, if full of thankfullness, full of hope, full of humbleness, full of love, and at the same time grief, lost, lack of motivation, lack of life, lack of everything that is connected with hope.. but still he has the power to whisper a small "dakujem" (slovak for thank you..)..the old man is out on the street every morning from 6 in the morning - to 20 in the evening...regardless of the weather, he doesnt have anything, maybe he lost everything, maybe he gave up he previous life, but he is still figthing...every day figthing..he is figthing more than other people that i know of...he has nothing - they have everything..what is the world come to..

i will tell you what i felt, what i saw, i saw humanity, i saw love, tolenrance, acceptance, and respect..all of this for a person that couldnt defend himself..other people helping, people coming together... this gives me hope that there is something better in everybody - except people like this primitive subject...so when people that you cant make a difference - tell them to go to hell, one man, can make a difference..if only he believes that he can..

sometimes you have a choice to help people that cant help themselves, it is your choice, make sure you choose the right thing to do...wouldnt it be wonderful to change - help change the world..imagine that everybody would start to help and support each other like this young man..then the world would be a better place..is it all just a dream, today i saw something more than a dream, reality..so sometimes dreams do come true..

so till our next time, the rigth way is not always the easy way, buy for sure after all the best way..

My sincere apologizes..

Ladies & Gentlemen, friends...

i sincerely apologize for not posting anything on my blog for the last period of time, however several things has happened.. and once i get the time i will share it all with you, dont worry... but for now, i need to apologize for my lack time, and trust me it is not lack of commitment..

once again my dear friends please feel free to check back once in a while for updates, i promise my updates will come very soon...oh and by the way i am going to do a conference this weekend - so that will for sure give me some more input...

so till our next time, start to prepare for a lot of reading..

yours commited...

Just wanted to share something with you...

dear friends on a day like today, where everything is going this fast, i just wanted to share something that i just read, and it really impressed me...have a look:

"Do you know how to give folks what they most, most, most want from you, without even asking them what it is?In all regards, just be yourself. That's what they were after when they manifested you into their lives. I recieved this and like to share.Being yourself is a great gift, first of all for yourself, and ... also for the others..."

how true and simple...

Reflection time is coming to town..

Why is is that everybody thinks that christmas time is the time for the big reflection - where the big questions are to be answered, questions like "what have i achieved this year?" or "what do i want to achieve next year?".. i mean why is it that these questions only comes once a year? i am in the (un)lucky situation that i have these questions on a weekly basis..i do a lot of conferences, i did a lot of conferences in the past as well, and what of the things that i have learned is to ask these types of questions all the time - i use it for personal development..i mean without this, nothing will happen, so forget what you think you know, forget what you have heard, forget who you are now and start to focus on who you want to be or what you want to become - focus on what you want to know..for me this includes setting monthly / sometimes weekly goals, and follow up on these goals.. in the end is there anything better than to develop yourself, is there anything better than when your family / friends / colleagues comes up to you, to tell you that you have changed into something better, something more!! for me this is the best felling!! but it all starts before that, forgetting about your previous situation - to become something more can only - will only happen once you really knows who you are, only after this can you become something more, something better..

so how do i do it? well it is pretty smple, i have always been facinated with knowledge, and learning new things / or getting to know new people, for me this is the ultimate goal in my life, being rich and famous is good and everything, but by the end of the day not really for me! for me the best way of developing is through mentorship, so i have a mentor(s) at work, these are as well by many people called go-to-colleagues, i have a mentor for my personal life, and i have a mentor for my coaching and presentation skills.. personally i started working with mentors when i was 18 yrs. old and ever since then i have been changing mentors, developing, changing mentors, learning, developing and changing mentors, i must have had the first 15 mentors till today! i have been a lucky person because all of these mentors that i have had, have all give something that i didnt know, so answers to my questions, on new ways of thinking, or totally new knowledge...this has allowed me to become in my own eyes a more complex person! (okay, i am not saying that i am god, or the best person, but i can honestly say that without a mentor my life would have been looking alot different!!)... So the first thing you should keep in mind when working with a mentor is : getting along and go along...! so what does this mean, well i have been in the situation many times that i have been eager to learn, sometimes to eager that i have not listen to my mentor, arguing with my mentor, or simply fighthing with my mentor, looking back on it - i know that it was a mistake... this is the "get along" phase, working with a mentor takes a lot of respect from your side, because you need to "shut up and listen" regardless of you agreeing or not, nobody wants a mentee that is loud mouth-arrogant and cant listen, so listen and learn, it takes time to learn to listen, alot of time, once you can listen, then you can learn, and now you are getting along... going along pretty much means that you have shown your abilities to listen even when something negative is being said about you (negative in my eyes is a matter of definetion - because what does it mean, many people take negative feedback extremely bad - i dont care as long as it is objective, subjective feedback doesnt help me what soever - sentences like "you are stupide!" - what can i use it for, argue for why you think i am stupide and i will consider it).. so the getting along phase for me is where your mentor takes you into his / her life, shows you all the ups and downs, explains you the differences between left and rigth, shares his or her knowledge / experience with you..once again a mentor doesnt what to hear that you think it could be done in a better way, or you think that it is stupide this way, once you are able to do it yourself then you can choose for yourself - till then listen, learn and be quiet! what of however happens is that the mentee thinks that it is all going to slow, this can go faster, well it can, but what i always say - back to the basics, you need to understand and know the basic stuff to understand and work with the complex stuff...one without the other cant exist...

the cool thing in my eyes about mentors is that they will go till the end of the world for you - if you show them respect, believe and the want / desire to learn from them, they will open up alot of closed doors for you, because when you start in a new company, community, etc. your mentor will be the gatemaster...and the fantastic thing about it is - they only want you to remember then in the future when you are becoming famous and rich...they will not ask for money, they only want to be remembered...this is a price that i am willing and able to pay, are you???

so for me life without a mentor is like life without guidance, you may think that you can learn everything on your own, only to wake up and realizing that for the last 2 yrs you have been trying to change into something better, but due to lack of guidance you acutally turned into something worse...that is pretty stupide, so dont think you know everything, find a mentor, learn from him or her, develop, move on to a new mentor, and repeat the process, this will for sure help you be more than you have ever been before...see the wonderfull thing about mentorship is that now - i am 29 yrs old, and i get to stand in front of people taking to them about this issue, now that is cool, i get the chance to tell people how their life can become better by working with a mentor..isnt life super....i have a conference coming in 2 weeks time, for a bounch of young people where i will be talking about the exact topic - "mentorship and the reason for it.." so in two weeks time i will update you a bit more on this topic okay!

till then - life is a learning process, so if you dont like to study - you are totally lost! so open the books and get cracking....

One of those nigths..

so after sleeping around 3 hours last night i find myself once again in front of my notebook - working...okay so what it the reason for my lack of sleep lately, i would love to say that i was out all night partying, getting drunk - however as many times in my life reality is a bit different! i didnt sleep much last nigth due to 2 reasons, first my partner was making the weirdest sounds all night - seriously she has this tendency to keep me up all nigth with the growling and mouning sound...which sometimes really gets on my nerves..what can i do - i mean everytime it happens i am frustrated etc.. but come to think about it, it is just one of those things that you need to accept.. speaking of accepting is that really what a relationship is all about, accepting your partner for what he or she is all about - good and bad, personally i had difficulties with this in the beginning, but it is getting easier - i guess i am getting more tolerant in my older days...

so what is / was the other reason for me not being able to sleep - well work! yes sad but true, i am reaching the point in my life where i cant sleep because i am constantly thinking of work...thinking about work, stress, finance, opportunites, the "what-if factor.." and more...right now the situation in our company is changing - as i mentioned earlier - we are waiting for a large investment into our company - but the obvious question to ask is "what if the investment doesnt come?".. i have thought about this and is thinking about this everyday, what are my alternatives, what are my opportunities...yesterday i talked to my partner about these issues - alot of emotion involved in this, because it is hard, if everything goes wrong, will we stay in slovakia, will we move to denmark - how will see cope with that? how will it be for her to leave her family and friends?... i did all of this so i know how difficult it can be...but on the other side i dont what to think these thoughts because i am happy with my job, i am burining for my job, i am brainwashed by my job..and i dont want to think about what if... but once in a while you have to be realistic and look reality in the eyes...so that is what i have to do...

so till our next time, be responsible...

The worst problem ever..or?

Yesterday i was having a conversation with my partner, right in itself having a conversation with my partner is not a big deal, more the topic...i am a lucky person because i have a real open relationship with my partner, which means that we talk and can laugh about basically anything, from primitive issues to serious issues.. so yesterday i dont how we ended up talking about this issue - but we ended up talking "faking the orgasm", okay so the conversation went on about the femal orgasm, guys this is actually where you can learn a lot about your partner and from your partner.. see i am not your "average joe" when it comes to the art of making love... no i am... listen i am kiding okay, i am fare from being "casanova" or "don juan" or even the italian lover... and you know what i am glad that i am none of them - i have nothing to prove, i dont need to be the best in bed, and honestly for me that would be rather boring as well...so knowing that i am not the italian stallion, i still believe that it is important for me to enjoy when we are together in bed, but i guess i do it different, first of all i like interlectual stimulation, laugher and making my partner comfortable with herself and me...for her to relax and enjoy, have a good mood is crucial i think..the whole intercourse process is over in a couple of minuts - okay i might not be the italian stallion, but it for sure takes more time than that....REALLY, HONESTLY!!!

right so why is it that some women they fake the orgasm, well as one of my friends from denmark would say "women fake orgasm, because they think that we men gives a shit about it..." this i think might be in one extreme, but really why do women fake it, i think that some women simply dont know what an orgasm is, so through faking the feel that this might be what it looks like, another good reason is that they want the whole process to be over faster, simply because they are not enjoying it..this is sometimes connected with a mental block! - seriously!! this i find sad, and the worst thing about it is that their partner are living in the safe fantasy that the women really is having an orgasm, because women can be extremely pursuadsive, i know this, my partner showed me yesterday...i didnt believe it till she started to fake an orgasm in our bathroom - honestly it was shocking...and i started thinking to myself - how many times did she fake when we have been together, and god bless her sould she said "never, i dont have to!!" - so that gave me a big ego boost...so maybe i am not the italian stallion, but then i am the DANISH PONY....

i have to admit that i feel sory for women that cant enjoy an orgasm, because sex / making love, is really all about give yourself to your partner, opening up totally, showing what and who you are, respecting the limits of your partner and vice versa, but most important it is about being one with your partner... - not that i want to sound like this romantic person or anything like that, but it is true...i read alot of these sex blogs, there is one in my favorit newspaper from denmark - yes ladies and gentlemen this is how important sex is in denmark to people, every newspaper or magazin with respect for itself has a sex column...i read these to try and understand the woman better, i am not saying that it is working - but it is nice to get a small look into the femal universe some once in a while...

speaking for myself i dont have a problem in getting an orgasm, honestly it is not at all a problem for me, i think and hope that it will never become one, but i think that the root to our problems with lack of "real orgasm" is because we are not only the x-generation, no we are the porno-generation, the porno industry is stronger than ever before, making billions and billions on showing people what "sex" is all about, so no wonder that we are a bit messed up, 10 years ago it was a crime to talk about "anal sex" or "blowjobs" no a recent research in scandinavia and UK shows that 85% of the femal teenage population doesnt even see "blowjob" as a sexual act - but more as a "standard service" - i mean this is hard. i personally see a good "BJ" a strong foreplay...but the whole problem is that sex is only sex nowaday (sex is even the fastest and strongest feeling tool when making advertisements!! - sex sells!), it has now in many cases nothing to do with feelings, tenderness, or love...it is a "fast in - fast out process", so no wonder many women dont get their orgasm...so what can we do, well first of all my advice to you is - if you need porno to turn your parnter on - that is first indicator that you have a relationship problem, second if you cant talk honest about what you want - respectively dont want, in your sexlife - there is a problem, if you cant listen to your partner about what she wants or doesnt want there is a problem...and finally you dont have to be italian to give your partner a good orgasm, you just have to focus on her, her body, her mind, and make sure that you dont only stimulate the lower parts of her body - but focus alot more on stimulating her upper part - yes you heard me "her upper part" - her brain...if you can stimulate that then the rest i believe comes automatically...and it makes sense to - i dont know a single women that wants to feel like a piece of meat only, they want to feel more, they want to feel that you are interested in the whole of them, from top to toe... and research shows that making a women laugh is one of the most important things that women are looking for in their partner....as well as having their partner challenge them interlectual...

so good sex is not only about the in-out part, but much more about your day-2-day communication, your mutual laugher, you challenging your partner.. the reach the ultimate orgasm - you need to have the mental orgasm first, and this is through communication with your partner only...so next time you feel the need to undress your partner, to tell your partner about your fantasies and what your are going to do to her / him... because this is all about mental stimulation...try it - it migth work just perfect for you... if you try it let me know how it worked out for you - dont be shy, we are all friends her!!!

so till our next time, girls start to relax and enjoy, and guys start to care...to wonderfull sex, because the world would be a better place if more people had better sex....

Doing it because you can...

Ever wondered what it would be like to say "hi" to a complete stranger, or to wish the clerk in the shop a nice day? have you everthought about doing it just for the fact of doing it? no reasons, just the pure abilities for you being able to do something good for another person, i mean why not, this i believe is the difference between being good and being a better person... i mean hell man, i never wish anybody anything unless i know them or the give me something for free - what can i say i am from denmark, i am not use to that, i come from a country where after living in the same building / apartment for 8 years i never not once talked to my neighbours... i mean not that they were crazy or anything - it is simply not tradition, it is not in our blood if you will! so know i was just wondering why that is - well now i live in an apartment near the center in Bratislava, where there is a bounch of old ladies living as well - and frankly speak they wont shut up - they constantly talk to you when you come or leave, i mean in the beginning it was getting on my nerves, constantly having to talk to people (bare in mind that i am the type of person that during my work day i talk alot - so in the morning or evening i want it to be quite...!!)..know after living the for a period of 6 months i am slowly getting use to it, but it took some time i must admit, until i realisted the obvious, if i just need to say goodmorning or goodevening and these ladies will have a nicer day / evening - then why not...

so after realizing that i am starting to communicate with everybody that cares to listen to me...which sometimes gives me great stories to tell, in the bus in the morning or evening...i mean why not - does it take that much effort from me if i reply or ask questions to people that a near and around me? no it really doesnt, it doesnt take a great effort, it is very easy - and you know what it is actually funny...i guess you can change these small little things if you really want to, however i still have to admit that i hate people bumbing into me on the street or in the bus - but this is because i am sick this way - i get nervous and close to panic attacts when people i dont know comes to close to me...so imagine me during the weekends when i am in the bar drunk!!!! ping ponging from one side to the other having panic - that must look so funny!

so my advice to all of you great people out there - dont get to close to me, because i might go crazy - no seriously, try to smile a little bit more, try to laugh just a little bit more.. and start to enjoy a bit more...dont be so serious all the time... and especially now with this type of weather, fuj, that gets the worst out in me, but hey stay optimistic only 6 months and then the weather will be better....

so till our next time :-)

Getting more traffic...

Not that i am complaning or anything, but can you please help me get more traffic to my blog, please i dont want to make you feel guilty or anything - but i have a big family, and a lot of bills that needs to be paid, and my children has to go to university, and we dont have money for food or anything.. - guys i am kidding, first i dont have a family like that, second i am not in it to make money, i do it for the fun of it... however for those of you how do have a blog add my link and i will see if i can do the same here... as i said this is my first time to enter the world of blogging etc... so be gentle.. but it is funny how many people are making money on blogging nowadays, and how good they are in attracting people to their blogs, i mean i am happy that my partner is reading my blog, so any more traffic is lovely... however am feeling a bit stupide when other bloggers are mentioning "dude yesterday i had 50.000 hits on my blog, dude!!!...", okay that is pretty cool i guess, my partner told me to be persistent and not to give up, and that i will reach that as well, thanks for the support baby, but i think not!!! okay if i do hit 50.000 people then i am definetely going to do something dramatically, like wear two different colored socks to work....no i will come up with something, or even better you come up with something, is that a deal?.....

so please guys give me more traffic, promote my blog to friends, family, and / or random people on the street....just kidding - i am sincerely happy that you are reading it...so dont be shy, drop me a line or mail me....

till our next time, dude.... where is my traffic.... (okay that is pretty stupid - taken from "dude where is my car" - for those of you that doesnt know this film, you are not missing alot...)

Finally monday...

Okay so i didnt write anyhing for the last couple of days, and i can tell you why, - i was relaxing, yes no work, no notebook, no meeting, no telephone meeting, no skype, just me, food and tons of films - now this is a holiday for me.. so how did i end up in this situation, well the unfortunate situation is the my partners mother is having some health problems so my partner had to take help her during the weekend leaving me all alone at home... so friday after work, me and some of my colleague decided to have a couple of drinks and i must say that it actually stayed at that just a couple of drinks, didnt get absolute waste or anything like that - went home, and watched television till the early morning...i guess i am geting old, or more mature, since i am no longer able to party to the early morning without being "dead" for days... so saturday i stayed in bed, went to the shop, got back to bed, ate, got back to bed, watched my first movie, prepared some more food, more tv....and so it went on and on.. till i finally went to sleep... so now you might think that i didnt do anything serious during the weekend but - but....i went to the gym!!!! yes i was almost hours in the gym, working out - and working out hard, okay let us face it i will never become the new arnold...or anything but at least i did feel better, so now i can wait another 3 weeks before i go there again...and then in the evening i spend my time with my partner - so all in all i must say that sunday was one of the most productive sundays in a long time...

okay so now what - what else is new?, well today i am working rather hard (hard doesnt mean stressed or anything like that - hard for me means that i have to use my brain...) today i am finally working on our new business model for our company - anybody ever tried to make a business model - well it is all about getting it all together and making sure that it sticks together and that it works... and this is very difficult, becasue you are making something based upon what it was in the past and what you want it to be in the future, but really you dont have to many guiding points... so it is kind of working in the dark...so right now nothing really interesting from my side - well actually we are preparing our consulting concept so this should be ready till friday so then i will try and share it with you..

so till our next time "isnt it greate that it is monday?.."