Something that i just have to share with you..

So i was sitting in the bus just a couple of hours ago, going home from work, it has been a very stressful day, so looking forward to get home, eat something, be with my better half..so sitting in the bus minding my own business, in enters this old man, i know him from when i go to work, he is homeless, selling magazins to people on the stress..it looks like the weather already is getting the better of him, his cloth is torn, didnt have a shower or a shave for to long a time - i wonder when the last time was, when he had a full stomach, and a nice bed to sleep in.. so he enters the bus, and rigth away the busdriver comes - "get out of my bus, you are not allowed to sell magazins in my bus.." - i mean what is wrong with this person (if i can call him that - rather call him a primitive subject!), the old man is speechless, doesnt put up a figth, to many situations like this, to many people not wanting to know of him, to many times been told that he is not wanted, the man is helpless, and then it comes, the bus driver continues to shout at this old helpless man.. and the one young guy stands up for the old man - "who the hell do you think that you are", a older lady starts "he is really not doing anything wrong.." and after a bit of time the whole bus stands up for this old man, and the bus driver finally crawls back to his hole and drives on...

the face expression of this old man, if full of thankfullness, full of hope, full of humbleness, full of love, and at the same time grief, lost, lack of motivation, lack of life, lack of everything that is connected with hope.. but still he has the power to whisper a small "dakujem" (slovak for thank you..)..the old man is out on the street every morning from 6 in the morning - to 20 in the evening...regardless of the weather, he doesnt have anything, maybe he lost everything, maybe he gave up he previous life, but he is still figthing...every day figthing..he is figthing more than other people that i know of...he has nothing - they have everything..what is the world come to..

i will tell you what i felt, what i saw, i saw humanity, i saw love, tolenrance, acceptance, and respect..all of this for a person that couldnt defend himself..other people helping, people coming together... this gives me hope that there is something better in everybody - except people like this primitive subject...so when people that you cant make a difference - tell them to go to hell, one man, can make a difference..if only he believes that he can..

sometimes you have a choice to help people that cant help themselves, it is your choice, make sure you choose the right thing to do...wouldnt it be wonderful to change - help change the world..imagine that everybody would start to help and support each other like this young man..then the world would be a better place..is it all just a dream, today i saw something more than a dream, reality..so sometimes dreams do come true..

so till our next time, the rigth way is not always the easy way, buy for sure after all the best way..

My sincere apologizes..

Ladies & Gentlemen, friends...

i sincerely apologize for not posting anything on my blog for the last period of time, however several things has happened.. and once i get the time i will share it all with you, dont worry... but for now, i need to apologize for my lack time, and trust me it is not lack of commitment..

once again my dear friends please feel free to check back once in a while for updates, i promise my updates will come very soon...oh and by the way i am going to do a conference this weekend - so that will for sure give me some more input...

so till our next time, start to prepare for a lot of reading..

yours commited...

Just wanted to share something with you...

dear friends on a day like today, where everything is going this fast, i just wanted to share something that i just read, and it really impressed me...have a look:

"Do you know how to give folks what they most, most, most want from you, without even asking them what it is?In all regards, just be yourself. That's what they were after when they manifested you into their lives. I recieved this and like to share.Being yourself is a great gift, first of all for yourself, and ... also for the others..."

how true and simple...

Reflection time is coming to town..

Why is is that everybody thinks that christmas time is the time for the big reflection - where the big questions are to be answered, questions like "what have i achieved this year?" or "what do i want to achieve next year?".. i mean why is it that these questions only comes once a year? i am in the (un)lucky situation that i have these questions on a weekly basis..i do a lot of conferences, i did a lot of conferences in the past as well, and what of the things that i have learned is to ask these types of questions all the time - i use it for personal development..i mean without this, nothing will happen, so forget what you think you know, forget what you have heard, forget who you are now and start to focus on who you want to be or what you want to become - focus on what you want to know..for me this includes setting monthly / sometimes weekly goals, and follow up on these goals.. in the end is there anything better than to develop yourself, is there anything better than when your family / friends / colleagues comes up to you, to tell you that you have changed into something better, something more!! for me this is the best felling!! but it all starts before that, forgetting about your previous situation - to become something more can only - will only happen once you really knows who you are, only after this can you become something more, something better..

so how do i do it? well it is pretty smple, i have always been facinated with knowledge, and learning new things / or getting to know new people, for me this is the ultimate goal in my life, being rich and famous is good and everything, but by the end of the day not really for me! for me the best way of developing is through mentorship, so i have a mentor(s) at work, these are as well by many people called go-to-colleagues, i have a mentor for my personal life, and i have a mentor for my coaching and presentation skills.. personally i started working with mentors when i was 18 yrs. old and ever since then i have been changing mentors, developing, changing mentors, learning, developing and changing mentors, i must have had the first 15 mentors till today! i have been a lucky person because all of these mentors that i have had, have all give something that i didnt know, so answers to my questions, on new ways of thinking, or totally new knowledge...this has allowed me to become in my own eyes a more complex person! (okay, i am not saying that i am god, or the best person, but i can honestly say that without a mentor my life would have been looking alot different!!)... So the first thing you should keep in mind when working with a mentor is : getting along and go along...! so what does this mean, well i have been in the situation many times that i have been eager to learn, sometimes to eager that i have not listen to my mentor, arguing with my mentor, or simply fighthing with my mentor, looking back on it - i know that it was a mistake... this is the "get along" phase, working with a mentor takes a lot of respect from your side, because you need to "shut up and listen" regardless of you agreeing or not, nobody wants a mentee that is loud mouth-arrogant and cant listen, so listen and learn, it takes time to learn to listen, alot of time, once you can listen, then you can learn, and now you are getting along... going along pretty much means that you have shown your abilities to listen even when something negative is being said about you (negative in my eyes is a matter of definetion - because what does it mean, many people take negative feedback extremely bad - i dont care as long as it is objective, subjective feedback doesnt help me what soever - sentences like "you are stupide!" - what can i use it for, argue for why you think i am stupide and i will consider it).. so the getting along phase for me is where your mentor takes you into his / her life, shows you all the ups and downs, explains you the differences between left and rigth, shares his or her knowledge / experience with you..once again a mentor doesnt what to hear that you think it could be done in a better way, or you think that it is stupide this way, once you are able to do it yourself then you can choose for yourself - till then listen, learn and be quiet! what of however happens is that the mentee thinks that it is all going to slow, this can go faster, well it can, but what i always say - back to the basics, you need to understand and know the basic stuff to understand and work with the complex stuff...one without the other cant exist...

the cool thing in my eyes about mentors is that they will go till the end of the world for you - if you show them respect, believe and the want / desire to learn from them, they will open up alot of closed doors for you, because when you start in a new company, community, etc. your mentor will be the gatemaster...and the fantastic thing about it is - they only want you to remember then in the future when you are becoming famous and rich...they will not ask for money, they only want to be remembered...this is a price that i am willing and able to pay, are you???

so for me life without a mentor is like life without guidance, you may think that you can learn everything on your own, only to wake up and realizing that for the last 2 yrs you have been trying to change into something better, but due to lack of guidance you acutally turned into something worse...that is pretty stupide, so dont think you know everything, find a mentor, learn from him or her, develop, move on to a new mentor, and repeat the process, this will for sure help you be more than you have ever been before...see the wonderfull thing about mentorship is that now - i am 29 yrs old, and i get to stand in front of people taking to them about this issue, now that is cool, i get the chance to tell people how their life can become better by working with a mentor..isnt life super....i have a conference coming in 2 weeks time, for a bounch of young people where i will be talking about the exact topic - "mentorship and the reason for it.." so in two weeks time i will update you a bit more on this topic okay!

till then - life is a learning process, so if you dont like to study - you are totally lost! so open the books and get cracking....

One of those nigths..

so after sleeping around 3 hours last night i find myself once again in front of my notebook - working...okay so what it the reason for my lack of sleep lately, i would love to say that i was out all night partying, getting drunk - however as many times in my life reality is a bit different! i didnt sleep much last nigth due to 2 reasons, first my partner was making the weirdest sounds all night - seriously she has this tendency to keep me up all nigth with the growling and mouning sound...which sometimes really gets on my nerves..what can i do - i mean everytime it happens i am frustrated etc.. but come to think about it, it is just one of those things that you need to accept.. speaking of accepting is that really what a relationship is all about, accepting your partner for what he or she is all about - good and bad, personally i had difficulties with this in the beginning, but it is getting easier - i guess i am getting more tolerant in my older days...

so what is / was the other reason for me not being able to sleep - well work! yes sad but true, i am reaching the point in my life where i cant sleep because i am constantly thinking of work...thinking about work, stress, finance, opportunites, the "what-if factor.." and more...right now the situation in our company is changing - as i mentioned earlier - we are waiting for a large investment into our company - but the obvious question to ask is "what if the investment doesnt come?".. i have thought about this and is thinking about this everyday, what are my alternatives, what are my opportunities...yesterday i talked to my partner about these issues - alot of emotion involved in this, because it is hard, if everything goes wrong, will we stay in slovakia, will we move to denmark - how will see cope with that? how will it be for her to leave her family and friends?... i did all of this so i know how difficult it can be...but on the other side i dont what to think these thoughts because i am happy with my job, i am burining for my job, i am brainwashed by my job..and i dont want to think about what if... but once in a while you have to be realistic and look reality in the eyes...so that is what i have to do...

so till our next time, be responsible...

The worst problem ever..or?

Yesterday i was having a conversation with my partner, right in itself having a conversation with my partner is not a big deal, more the topic...i am a lucky person because i have a real open relationship with my partner, which means that we talk and can laugh about basically anything, from primitive issues to serious issues.. so yesterday i dont how we ended up talking about this issue - but we ended up talking "faking the orgasm", okay so the conversation went on about the femal orgasm, guys this is actually where you can learn a lot about your partner and from your partner.. see i am not your "average joe" when it comes to the art of making love... no i am... listen i am kiding okay, i am fare from being "casanova" or "don juan" or even the italian lover... and you know what i am glad that i am none of them - i have nothing to prove, i dont need to be the best in bed, and honestly for me that would be rather boring as well...so knowing that i am not the italian stallion, i still believe that it is important for me to enjoy when we are together in bed, but i guess i do it different, first of all i like interlectual stimulation, laugher and making my partner comfortable with herself and me...for her to relax and enjoy, have a good mood is crucial i think..the whole intercourse process is over in a couple of minuts - okay i might not be the italian stallion, but it for sure takes more time than that....REALLY, HONESTLY!!!

right so why is it that some women they fake the orgasm, well as one of my friends from denmark would say "women fake orgasm, because they think that we men gives a shit about it..." this i think might be in one extreme, but really why do women fake it, i think that some women simply dont know what an orgasm is, so through faking the feel that this might be what it looks like, another good reason is that they want the whole process to be over faster, simply because they are not enjoying it..this is sometimes connected with a mental block! - seriously!! this i find sad, and the worst thing about it is that their partner are living in the safe fantasy that the women really is having an orgasm, because women can be extremely pursuadsive, i know this, my partner showed me yesterday...i didnt believe it till she started to fake an orgasm in our bathroom - honestly it was shocking...and i started thinking to myself - how many times did she fake when we have been together, and god bless her sould she said "never, i dont have to!!" - so that gave me a big ego boost...so maybe i am not the italian stallion, but then i am the DANISH PONY....

i have to admit that i feel sory for women that cant enjoy an orgasm, because sex / making love, is really all about give yourself to your partner, opening up totally, showing what and who you are, respecting the limits of your partner and vice versa, but most important it is about being one with your partner... - not that i want to sound like this romantic person or anything like that, but it is true...i read alot of these sex blogs, there is one in my favorit newspaper from denmark - yes ladies and gentlemen this is how important sex is in denmark to people, every newspaper or magazin with respect for itself has a sex column...i read these to try and understand the woman better, i am not saying that it is working - but it is nice to get a small look into the femal universe some once in a while...

speaking for myself i dont have a problem in getting an orgasm, honestly it is not at all a problem for me, i think and hope that it will never become one, but i think that the root to our problems with lack of "real orgasm" is because we are not only the x-generation, no we are the porno-generation, the porno industry is stronger than ever before, making billions and billions on showing people what "sex" is all about, so no wonder that we are a bit messed up, 10 years ago it was a crime to talk about "anal sex" or "blowjobs" no a recent research in scandinavia and UK shows that 85% of the femal teenage population doesnt even see "blowjob" as a sexual act - but more as a "standard service" - i mean this is hard. i personally see a good "BJ" a strong foreplay...but the whole problem is that sex is only sex nowaday (sex is even the fastest and strongest feeling tool when making advertisements!! - sex sells!), it has now in many cases nothing to do with feelings, tenderness, or love...it is a "fast in - fast out process", so no wonder many women dont get their orgasm...so what can we do, well first of all my advice to you is - if you need porno to turn your parnter on - that is first indicator that you have a relationship problem, second if you cant talk honest about what you want - respectively dont want, in your sexlife - there is a problem, if you cant listen to your partner about what she wants or doesnt want there is a problem...and finally you dont have to be italian to give your partner a good orgasm, you just have to focus on her, her body, her mind, and make sure that you dont only stimulate the lower parts of her body - but focus alot more on stimulating her upper part - yes you heard me "her upper part" - her brain...if you can stimulate that then the rest i believe comes automatically...and it makes sense to - i dont know a single women that wants to feel like a piece of meat only, they want to feel more, they want to feel that you are interested in the whole of them, from top to toe... and research shows that making a women laugh is one of the most important things that women are looking for in their partner....as well as having their partner challenge them interlectual...

so good sex is not only about the in-out part, but much more about your day-2-day communication, your mutual laugher, you challenging your partner.. the reach the ultimate orgasm - you need to have the mental orgasm first, and this is through communication with your partner only...so next time you feel the need to undress your partner, to tell your partner about your fantasies and what your are going to do to her / him... because this is all about mental stimulation...try it - it migth work just perfect for you... if you try it let me know how it worked out for you - dont be shy, we are all friends her!!!

so till our next time, girls start to relax and enjoy, and guys start to care...to wonderfull sex, because the world would be a better place if more people had better sex....

Doing it because you can...

Ever wondered what it would be like to say "hi" to a complete stranger, or to wish the clerk in the shop a nice day? have you everthought about doing it just for the fact of doing it? no reasons, just the pure abilities for you being able to do something good for another person, i mean why not, this i believe is the difference between being good and being a better person... i mean hell man, i never wish anybody anything unless i know them or the give me something for free - what can i say i am from denmark, i am not use to that, i come from a country where after living in the same building / apartment for 8 years i never not once talked to my neighbours... i mean not that they were crazy or anything - it is simply not tradition, it is not in our blood if you will! so know i was just wondering why that is - well now i live in an apartment near the center in Bratislava, where there is a bounch of old ladies living as well - and frankly speak they wont shut up - they constantly talk to you when you come or leave, i mean in the beginning it was getting on my nerves, constantly having to talk to people (bare in mind that i am the type of person that during my work day i talk alot - so in the morning or evening i want it to be quite...!!)..know after living the for a period of 6 months i am slowly getting use to it, but it took some time i must admit, until i realisted the obvious, if i just need to say goodmorning or goodevening and these ladies will have a nicer day / evening - then why not...

so after realizing that i am starting to communicate with everybody that cares to listen to me...which sometimes gives me great stories to tell, in the bus in the morning or evening...i mean why not - does it take that much effort from me if i reply or ask questions to people that a near and around me? no it really doesnt, it doesnt take a great effort, it is very easy - and you know what it is actually funny...i guess you can change these small little things if you really want to, however i still have to admit that i hate people bumbing into me on the street or in the bus - but this is because i am sick this way - i get nervous and close to panic attacts when people i dont know comes to close to me...so imagine me during the weekends when i am in the bar drunk!!!! ping ponging from one side to the other having panic - that must look so funny!

so my advice to all of you great people out there - dont get to close to me, because i might go crazy - no seriously, try to smile a little bit more, try to laugh just a little bit more.. and start to enjoy a bit more...dont be so serious all the time... and especially now with this type of weather, fuj, that gets the worst out in me, but hey stay optimistic only 6 months and then the weather will be better....

so till our next time :-)

Getting more traffic...

Not that i am complaning or anything, but can you please help me get more traffic to my blog, please i dont want to make you feel guilty or anything - but i have a big family, and a lot of bills that needs to be paid, and my children has to go to university, and we dont have money for food or anything.. - guys i am kidding, first i dont have a family like that, second i am not in it to make money, i do it for the fun of it... however for those of you how do have a blog add my link and i will see if i can do the same here... as i said this is my first time to enter the world of blogging etc... so be gentle.. but it is funny how many people are making money on blogging nowadays, and how good they are in attracting people to their blogs, i mean i am happy that my partner is reading my blog, so any more traffic is lovely... however am feeling a bit stupide when other bloggers are mentioning "dude yesterday i had 50.000 hits on my blog, dude!!!...", okay that is pretty cool i guess, my partner told me to be persistent and not to give up, and that i will reach that as well, thanks for the support baby, but i think not!!! okay if i do hit 50.000 people then i am definetely going to do something dramatically, like wear two different colored socks to work....no i will come up with something, or even better you come up with something, is that a deal?.....

so please guys give me more traffic, promote my blog to friends, family, and / or random people on the street....just kidding - i am sincerely happy that you are reading it...so dont be shy, drop me a line or mail me....

till our next time, dude.... where is my traffic.... (okay that is pretty stupid - taken from "dude where is my car" - for those of you that doesnt know this film, you are not missing alot...)

Finally monday...

Okay so i didnt write anyhing for the last couple of days, and i can tell you why, - i was relaxing, yes no work, no notebook, no meeting, no telephone meeting, no skype, just me, food and tons of films - now this is a holiday for me.. so how did i end up in this situation, well the unfortunate situation is the my partners mother is having some health problems so my partner had to take help her during the weekend leaving me all alone at home... so friday after work, me and some of my colleague decided to have a couple of drinks and i must say that it actually stayed at that just a couple of drinks, didnt get absolute waste or anything like that - went home, and watched television till the early morning...i guess i am geting old, or more mature, since i am no longer able to party to the early morning without being "dead" for days... so saturday i stayed in bed, went to the shop, got back to bed, ate, got back to bed, watched my first movie, prepared some more food, more tv....and so it went on and on.. till i finally went to sleep... so now you might think that i didnt do anything serious during the weekend but - but....i went to the gym!!!! yes i was almost hours in the gym, working out - and working out hard, okay let us face it i will never become the new arnold...or anything but at least i did feel better, so now i can wait another 3 weeks before i go there again...and then in the evening i spend my time with my partner - so all in all i must say that sunday was one of the most productive sundays in a long time...

okay so now what - what else is new?, well today i am working rather hard (hard doesnt mean stressed or anything like that - hard for me means that i have to use my brain...) today i am finally working on our new business model for our company - anybody ever tried to make a business model - well it is all about getting it all together and making sure that it sticks together and that it works... and this is very difficult, becasue you are making something based upon what it was in the past and what you want it to be in the future, but really you dont have to many guiding points... so it is kind of working in the dark...so right now nothing really interesting from my side - well actually we are preparing our consulting concept so this should be ready till friday so then i will try and share it with you..

so till our next time "isnt it greate that it is monday?.."

Just another one of those days..

Without doubt i can tell you that this has not at all been my week!! stressed and nervous i went home from work yesterday, had a extremely bad mood - managed to take it out on my partner, eventhough i told you i was going to behave, i guess reality is not always what you want it to be.. so i tried to go to sleep at a civilized time, couldnt sleep! eventually slept at around 3.30 in the morning - mind you that i was sleeping on the couch last nigth, my partner gets up at 5.45 so you can imagine just how i feel, didnt have time to have my coffee till now, smoked god knows how many cigarets, did my lunch in front of my notebook... but this is not the thing that makes me think to myself - "why did i leave my bed..?", the problem is that when you enter work, and within the first 5 - 10 min you have a fight with your partners (here i mean the group of people i work with and dont share bed with!!) and a lot of bad words are being used - the reason for our mood and this amount of nerves is that we are working on this investment as i already mentioned, and just sometimes it feels like we are walking around in circles, and nothing is coming out of it, and it is frustrating as hell, the energy and the time that we / i have spend on this project is really alot..so for us not to get anything out of it - will be a nightmare!!

i guess my problem is that i am extremely pessimistic when it comes to trust people while doing business, i have had enough bad experience with people promising me everything - and actually nothing comes out of it..so i seem my role in the whole investment process as being the watchdog - the cynical one, the one challeging the investor to make sure he is not wasting our time.. however it is difficult to find a perfect balance, between believing and disbelieving, and through this motivate or demotivate my partners...and this i think is the problem, they see me as suppose to be a motivator, a believer - to believe that everything will be fine, super duper... but i rather look at the real picture and calculate my chances of success and prepare for failure and success...i am not the type of person that starts to spend money before they are in the bank..and even then i have my concerns..so guess what i am trying to say is, that it is okay to be a dreamer and an optimist, but the fall you take when things dont go your way are alot harder than when you are a realist..the join of having the project go through is for me equally exciting, because i really want to believe - but i simply lost my ability or capability to be a super-optmist..(dont feel sorry for me - i dont see it as a strong disadvantage!!!)

so what now, having had the figth with my partners, well the air is a bit thick right now, and i know that it is not over just yet, there is more to come, because i guess this is how we do it - how we clear the air, by shouting, telling bad words about each other, for them to re-focus and solve the problems that we should have solved at in the very beginning, it reminds me of two monkeys figthing, banging on their chest etc... stupidity!!!

So as to motivate myself a bit today - as Johan Carlson old CEO of SAS (the airline company in scandinavia!!) "what doesnt kill you, makes you stronger.." - okay what a complete asshole to say something like this, because i can tell you that this is not really the feeling that i have right now - that this fight makes me stronger...i am having the feeling that i just wasted 1 hour of my life on something this destructive...so Johan Carlson - thanks but, no thanks!!!

so to answer my own question, why did i leave my bed today - well to make sure that i am looking even more forward to getting into it tonight..

till our next time goodnight..

Why women always knows best..

Ever got that feeling (if your a man!) that your girlfriend, partner or wife knows best.. well get use to it!! because it is the reality...objectively or subjectively speak we men dont stand a chance when it comes to the opposite sex, no chance in hell, it is per definition not posible! whatever it is about women knows best, the only thing you can do if you have half a brain is to accept it - dont fight it, just accept it! look at like this, who decides when to have sex / make love - you or your woman, if you decide, consider yourself a very lucky person, if not welcom in the club..i always thougth that i decided about this but no! boy was i wrong, my partner decides when and if we are going to do it!!! - you are in the mood for a little bit of action - and your partner is not, the excuse or reply is "you only want sex from me..", or she starts to talk about how her day was, and when you start to move in for a little bit of action, here it comes "you dont respect me when i talk, my job is not important to you.." or she starts to talk about her friends "do you know what janka did today..." i am lying and waiting for some action - "no i dont know what janka did - and frankly speaking i dont care!!!" and if this doesnt work then of course there is the classic "baby not tonigth - i have a headache..."

so now establishing the fact that women are in control, where does that leave us men, well we are / might be the boss at work, between our friends but at home no way... i accept this, and you know what it is okay for me, (the sex part is not!), there is only one person that really knows how to piss me off and that is my partner, and there is only one person that can make me feel like i am i heaven - yeps, the same person, for me it makes sense, it is like ying and yang, look at it like this - love and hate, the more she can piss you of there more she can make you feel good about yourself - and in the end the only thing that matters, you and your partner feeling good together... oh the power of women is wonderfull - personally i love the fact that no matter what i do i am always wrong when it comes to our figths (okay often i am - but what are the chance of me always being wrong - in my relationship rather high!!) my partner has this amazing ability to remember everything i say and do, even when she is drunk, and my god is she good in mentioning it - in our arguments, women have perfect timing when it comes to this, how many time have i been in the situation where i could say okay - game over for my partner, and then it comes "remember what you said when you were drunk.." listen i cant even remember what i say when i am sober, what makes you think i can remember anything when i am drunk, but instead of saying "baby no i dont remember i was drunk.." to admit it, i say "of course i can, and..." okay this is the worst thing that you can say - because your partner has you right where she wants you.. and it is just a matter of time before she goes in for the kill...reminds me about how cats are playing with mice, just playing with them... only to end up killing them, women are the same - they are cats - just playing with you, on their conditions...!

so is it all bad, well looking at the society that we are living in right now - no wonder women have the control, everyday you hear women talk about that the perfect man knows how : cry, show his emotions, cook, clean, take care of the children, be in touch with his inner self, listen, communicate, be sensitive, romantic, buy flowers, make love, cuttle, show passion, etc.. the list is endless.. then a couple of days later you read that, real women want : a macho man, that doesnt shave, doesnt care about emotions, is into sex, forgets birthdays, and in general is an asshole... so here it comes this profile of what women wants is changing more frequent than i change my socks... so no wonder that we men are a bit messed up in our minds, i come home to my partner and i think, does she want this or that, soft or hard, cry or fart, love or sex... and you know what the funny part is if you ask your partner - "so baby tonight you want me to be soft or hard.." she will tell you this "after all this time together you still dont know what i want... you dont listen...you dont care..." and then before you know it your are sleeping on the couch with your turtles... not that i have tried that of course!!!

did you ever get the feeling that your partner is trying to make you jealous on purpose.. i do! do you know why - because they want to know that we care, what i dont understand is why does this make them think that i care, honestly i get pissed of, as a civilized person, jealous yes i do become jealous - i hate myself for it, because it is a sickness, that doesnt do any good to your relationship..i rather have my partner communicate with me, tell me that she needs to hear that i care - instead of her flirting with other guys to get my attention... however i am the lucky one, my partner has many talents, one of them is to tell guys what to do to themselves once the try to flirt with her, and in very hard words, she tells me that she doesnt need it, however i still get jealous and i think that she likes it - to a limit of course.. but you know what if i didnt get jealous i think it would show that i dont care much for my partner.. and this i dont want to show her because i do - and alot, okay i am not equally good in channeling this into something tangible for her.. but i think and hope that she gets the big picture..

on a closing note my partner has this ability - i told you already she is very talented, to always know what i need in my life, in the beginning it was annoying as hell - and sometimes still is, because i look at it like this - how come she knows better than me, and it really upsets me, when other people knows more about me - than myself.. but the i finally understood it, she doesnt do this to make me mad, or to piss me off, she does it because she loves me, and honestly wants what is best for me - totally non-selfish way of thinking, and a bit new for me to honest..and it takes a great person to do something like this, to say "you know what, i think that it is better like this.." regardless of what i migth cause of pay, without thinking about oneself... this is what love is all about i guess..because by the end of the day it is easy to just agree with eveything i say or do, but it is different when she looks at me and challenges me to become better, stronger etc.. and this is what my partner is doing, she is not just telling me that i am great and super all the time, but is as well telling when i am not, when i make mistakes, when i am tickhheaded (okay it happens that some once in a while i am - okay dont make a big deal out of it!!) my partner wants what is the best for me, and through this wants to me to be better, even if it makes her sad, so you know what i dont have a problem with the fact that my partner is always right - when she is able to do these things, she has my respect, and my appriciation..because she is sacrificing herself for me, do you do that? did you do that? - because i forget to do this..i forget because i dont think it matters, but i know that it does!!! for me doing this makes the different between being a person and being a good person..

so guys my advice to you is the following, you loose the figth to win the war, dont be so proud like me and create conflicts that are not there only to be right, know when you bow down and when to fight and show what you feel, and show it whenever you have the chance.. and now i am going home just to do - "baby be ready daddy is coming home..."

till our next time, show them that you care...because you can!

Making it all work...

So after sleeping very little last nigth due to various reasons, i have been trying to keep myself going on this grey and cold tuesday, okay the help of loads of coffee - and extraordinary work loads has help me as well.. rigth now i am a bit stressed, i have to admit it, i think that it is the first time in my career that i am stressed, i will tell you why! if any of you are working in the IT business, for a start-up, will know that it is an eternal struggle for money - we are no better or worse in this case, however we are better in terms of our profile, because we have a patent on a software that is not out on the market yet.. a software that for sure will change alot of business and make a lot of people very rich, potentially myself and my partners as well.. the point that makes me stressed is that we are lacking the financial support from investors (in our terms risk capital partners - makes it sound alot nicer i think..) we had some potential investors, and got burned, we are currently working with one right now that migth turn out to be something - but on the other side migth as wel turn out to be a hoax (chance are 50 / 50), the point that makes me stressed is the waiting - a clear yes / no, if for me much more appriciated than - "we will think about it.." so right now we are waiting and waiting...and everybody at work are trying to make the best of the situation - but you see that it is starting to very difficult...!

okay so today was one of those days where my i had to present some plans about how we can re-structure the company to make it all work, and in itself the presentation went really well, we have a clear idea what the company should look like, how and what we will be working on, when etc..however what we found with our conversation was that we have been looking totally in the wrong way, we have been focusing on the wrong markets, people, companies, and basically an internal audit of our company would have shown that everything that could be wrong - was wrong... wow that is pretty nice to sit with that feeling, knowing that everything in your company is wrong.. well come to think about it - it is actually, i believe that it is the best thing that has happened to the company so far, now we know what was wrong and we know how to change it, and we are changing it - just imagine an investor would invest in our company while everything would be wrong, our chance of getting anything our of the market would have been gone forever..but now we know and we have time to fix the problems - we have a strict policy in our company to get to it once our plans are ready - yes we plan alot, we talk alot, and we smoke alot... but the eventual outcome is that our plans are so clear that you dont have to be an expert to do the work, it is all defined how and what to do, when to do it and why to do it! okay it sounds like we are the best company in the world, this is not my point at all, my point is that the strength of a company is its ability to plan for the future, adjust to the situation here and now, and move towards its goals, basically flexibility and creativity combined with some strong strategic thinking people.. which luckily all of our partners are (unluckily that means our meetings always takes forever to finish...).. a company that is not flexible will have difficulties adjusting to the market demands, look at IBM over the last 10 years, where they where loosing market shares to HP and Dell, only for them to finally sell of there PC side, to focus on consulting..but look at the time they spend on this, IBM is a giant of a company - on where time to react can be measured in ligthyears...however my point is that all companies will have to sooner or later re-think their identity - like people to find out who they are, where they are and what they want to become.. if not we stagnate and slowly we run out of fashion.. this is the strength of dynamic companies...

okay so what is my point really "making it all work.." well actually i was thinking about how much i have messed up my own life in the strive to get what i wanted / want, and how much i have sacrificed to reach the point that i have - and the question is always "has it been worth it..", "is it worth it.." well to tell you the truth - i wish i could be a better person, i wish that i didnt have such a bad relationship with my own family, i wish that i had a better relationship with my friends and i wish that i was a better boyfriend.. but to tell you the truth i am not! i am none of the above, and i will never be...okay it doesnt mean that i am a shit person, it just means that i have different priorities, family is not important for me relationship with friends, well since i spend as much time at work as i do, there is really no need for that as well, being a better boyfriend...okay that is an issue!!! see 90% of all my relationship problems now and also in the past springs from two things, lack of tolerance toward understanding my partner (in general communicating with the female gender is not my strongest side - i am fully aware of this!), and overload from work...the constant pressure concerning money, responsibility, tasks, deadlines, meetings, presentations, strategies etc.. it is hard sometimes, and very hard indeed..and i am sure that my current partner is not at all happy about the situation, but she has been given the choice to be with me - and accept my chaotic life as it is now, or find a 9 - 17 guy! by the end of the day i cant change something unless i want to - and what i am right now is not something i want to change.. and i guess i would die from boredom if i had a 9 - 17.00 job...christ all mighty, i never had that, and i am not about to change.. so accept me for who i am or leave me alone! (am i being arrongant right now - well i dont think so, but what is the purpose of me trying to make you like me for someone i am not, and never going to be? i think it is a complete waste of your time and for me more important my own time..so i will respect and like you for who you are - so you do the same - i think it is fair..)

so all in all what i am trying to tell you is that you need to be willing to pay the price for what you want if you are looking for a career.. and if you are not able / willing to pay the price - get a 9 - 17 job and leave the management to someone who is able / willing to pay the price.. because all this conversation about work-life balance doesnt exist it is a myth, either you can go the whole 9 yards or non at all - there is no inbetween, and honestly speaking who wants to be second best... i for sure dont.. having said that would i if i could change anything in my life..well i have a couple of situations that i would have liked to have changed, however this would without doubt have cause the "butterfly effect" - and i would not been in my current situation, so no there is nothing i would change...okay it doesnt mean that i am equally proud of my entire life (we all have skelets in the closet..even i have them!), but seriously what is the purpose of thinking about what if..we will never change it - accept where you are / or change it, but it require, the present moment and future moments......

last question how much am i willing to sacrifice? well to answer it this way - the one that can sacrifice everything has nothing to loose and everything to win...does that answer your questions?.. think about it!

till our next time - it is cold on the top and very lonely, so make sure you have some warm cloth and a radio... to your career....

The ultimate marketing trick..

I was just thinking while going home from work - it is my time for reflection, that one of the best marketing is not about launching a product or a service nowadays - however it is about positioning a person for something special.. our age has show multiple examples of this, just to take one i think is very interesting rigth now is the story of once a vicepresident - almost a president, the one i am talking about is of course no other than Mr. Al Gore.... look at it, it must be right now one of the most discussed issues right now, what is the situation, a man that won the election, then lost it, then won it again only to loose it finally to Mr. Bush... so what is the whole story - and why do i think it is such a good trick, just look at it.. the man recently got the most appriciate and recognized price in the world the nobel price, - for those of you who dont know this, the nobel prize has been awarded since 1901 for extraordinary achievements around the world - it all started with the man called Alfred Nobel, that in his last will left a lot of his wealth to the establishment of the nobel prize.. this year the winner of the nobel prize for peace went to Mr. Al Gore, for his great knowledge about man-made climate changes - and for the foundation of an organization to counteract on those changes.. so basically what he got the nobel prize for was to tell something that people with a rigth mind already knows, what people around the world has been commenting on for years, funny enough is that when he was running for president he wasnt at all talking about this (i guess that he forgot about it!!) so now he is re-born and is a try forespeaker for the climate - good for him and the world i guess, or is it?

My theory is that it is all a part of a mastermind plan, this is positioning, for now he has gained 20 kg, got some grey hairs and the nobel prize, and then we will see if he will run for president, this for me if he chooses to the best marketing he could ever want, the best positioning in all time, he is on one hand talking about global green house gases, global pollution etc.. and this he can use in his campaigne making USA a country that could be a leader in this if he would be the president - finally USA would be regocnized for something positive... now that the whole world is looking at the USA like never before, with all the deals gone bad over the ruling of Mr. Bush (i am reluctant to say that things cant get much worse...). What this nobel prize also gives Mr. Gore is access to the most exclusive club that no other president candidate has, members like John Nash, Albert Einstein, Jimmy Carter, Kofi Annan, Yasser Arafat and of course Nelson Mandela, this is a pretty strong reference to have... i bet this looks good on his CV!! for me what this exlusive club give Mr. Gore is the strongest strategic allience across countries, this has never been done before and in this time we are living - never before has it been more in to talk about world peace... (maybe only exeed by the 70's!!) then right now.. so the real issues is does it matter whether or not Mr. Gore really believes in what he is talking about or is he just a hell of an actor, for me it doesnt matter at all, life is now more than ever all about the "illusion" we live in, the illusion we can affort to create, while forget all about what is really true to us.. and no it doesnt matter if it is true or not, people will always need something or someone to believe in... the last boy scout died a long time ago, there is no right or wrong anymore, there is what is perceive to be right and wronge..honestly i migth seem like i am a pessimist, but i am merely a realist.. my point with believe goes beyond this point, look at proffessional footballers for example, way are they so well paid - why do they have status like heros, because the people believe in them, because people deep down dont want to take responsibility and rather leave it for others to take it, this is why they need to believe in someone or something, to make sure that they dont have to end up with this responsibility...

so it really doesnt matter if what you do is right or wrong believe will believe in you if you tell them what they want to hear...this i guess is what Nietzsche meant when he said that "God is dead!", i guess what he wanted to say was - guys take responsibility because nobody is going to do it for you... he i am sure that he would be pissed of if he would be living right now, seeing what the world has turned in to... till our next meeting take your own responsibility because nobody is going to do it for you.. maybe Al Gore would if you promise to vote for him at the next election...

Marketing one on one..

Okay so i am back - today is really not my day, simply cant find it in me to get the work done..have a million excuses why not to work, "just need to have a look here, a look there, a e-mail here and there, a read here and there, a search here and there.." basically waiting till motivation strikes me.. like ligthning from a clear blue sky - okay sorry for the methaphore, just had to out it there. Okay so i wasted pretty much my day on nothing - my productivity has seen better days, i feel strange when i have these days - i feel like i am empty - like i am here but not really, i guess it is the season, the weather, the fact that christmas and december is coming soon - you can hear i am not a big christmas fan, i mean what is the purpose - it has turned into a big media circus anyways it is all about the marketing..i mean look at coca cola - they are spending more money in the month of december than the whole year together just so you will buy their soft drinks.. does it work, yes it does work, and it works really well - this leads me to my point, marketing one on one: it doesnt matter what your product is, it is all about your marketing.. really look at it like this - the best products / services doesnt are not neccessary the most selling ones - however the most selling ones are likewise not at all the best products.. an example if you will one car producer some years back launched a new car model, it turned out that the model was full of mistakes, everything from falling apart to have engines break down.. what did they do - cancel the model, nope! they recalled the models, lowered the price and increase the marketing budget - and vupti a success was born, the car was still pretty bad, but now it was publicly know that it didnt work - yet people still bought it, and even more people than before... so it is all about the marketing.. another example, what about Mcdonalds, this weekend i went shopping with my partner, and we ended up in a Mcdonalds for lunch - i have to admit this is the first time in the last 6 months that i actually ate there, and it was not a success - the food is awfull, the taste is really bad - at least in my humble opinion... so why do people eat there - oh and there was as well a birthday party there - you really have to dislike your children if you have a birthday party there... okay the thing about the birthday party i guess is that you get someone else to keep an eye on your children while you have a quiet moment, but what is the purpose.. okay the kids seems to enjoy it.. why would you eat a Mcdonalds - the taste is off, and it is not very healthy for you as well - did you watch "supersize me"? no - and you are a big Mcdonald fan - then you might want to run down and get it...then Mcdonalds will be history for you.. lets face it people eat at Mcdonalds because it is easy, and because of the marketing.. so marketing does work on the people - and this is good news for me, a guy doing marketing.. knowing that you can get people to use your products, you just need to push enough information (in the case of Mcdonalds useless information!!) into their heads.. and then you have the best selling food concept in the world.. sounds pretty easy right..

The only problem is that - this type of marketing works for private people, this doesnt work on companies, due to many factors, however it sounds funny that it doesnt work on companies taking the following fact into consideration: the collective intelligens is smaller than the intelligence of a single individual - imagine that the bigger the company, the more stupide it is.. is there a proof for my theory - well first of all it is not my theory, but a classical theory, it springs from the fact of miscommunication, lack of transparency in communication, personal agendas (here i mean that people do thinks because they want to achieve something!), and the lack of ability to transmit knowledge... so basically speaking we are all when working in a company lowering our intelligence...so actually speaking we could all do our lunch at Mcdonalds..

Okay is it always like this, marketing i mean, well not really marketing has changed over time - when i went to school we worked with the 4 p's - now i am working with: guerilla marketing, word-of-mouth, viral marketing, lead frog marketing, database marketing and of course blog marketing.. so for me this is a sign that most end-users are getting smarter, companies are getting smarter as well, eventough i just argued for the opposite..so all in all this makes my job alot more difficult and alot more easy... and this is the paradox of marketing nowadays..

take our company, we are the developer of a software that once we launch it will be a matter of days before one of the biggest software companies will come knocking on the door, asking us to sell - 10 years ago we would have chance to become a big player, now we dont stand a chance, this is because marketing is no longer used as a tool for supporting sales, but as a tool to keep clients (this is what some people call CRM),so our choice is very straigth forward - our marketing is focused on awareness, to get people like yourself to know about our company, to create a buzz effect, to create our brand, so this means that we will not spend tons of money on advertisement - but rather focus on referal marketing.. we do this to make sure our value of our company is as high as posible - and hopefull we will get the highest price once we get bought... this is the frustrating side of the coin with todays market... but on the other hand also the funny side.. look at facebook.com for me personally this is genious what he did, and the price that was offered was running on the other side of 500 mill $ not bad, but the point of it was it was because of the brand awareness.. - for those of you that wants to know more about brand awareness dont worry i will return back to this..

so just to summarize - it is no longer the IT age we are living in but the marketing age, and if you think that you are immune to marketing - then take a look at your life, the cloth you wear, the products you buy, do you think it is an accident you buy these products...? it is not... wow this was the serious moment of the day.. dont worry next upload will be more relaxed.. oh if you have any requests or questions please feel free to post them...

till our next meeting, remember people do judge you for who you are but for what you wear - just kidding - stay true to yourself...

A matter of definition Girlfriend versus partner...

okay so today is one of those days - we all have them, they are here to stay.. it is the day where you just dont feel like working - or dont have the brain to work - so i have that today, i am suppose to work on a presentation for the company, deadline is on wednesday, the presentation is re-design the company structure, to make our organization more lean...wow sounds fancy right, well the problem is that today i am simply without energy, had my coffee and my first cigaret (since i dont have an endorsement deal from the company that i buy cigarets from i will not mention the brand - once the endorsement deal comes i will!) but still i am not really awake yet.. weekend is over, having a long week in front of me, so right now i am on a all time low in terms of motivation.. so i was thinking i rather take the time to clear something that has been on my mind for some time now, the question is..


"what is the different between partner and girlfriend?..'


okay i know that it is not such a deep question - but hey it is monday so for me it is rather deep..
I am living with my girlfriend / partner, and have been doing so for around 6 months now, okay it is not at all as in the movies, where everyday is just fantastic, we have our ups and downs, like anybody else i guess.. i would love to hear from someone that only has ups.. - and i would like to know what world they are in... we, my girlfriend / partner figth, argue like anybody else, our problems typically starts with misunderstandings - yes misunderstandings, it is not the typical porblems that we have, well i guess it is - for what man real do understand women, besides homosexuals, i mean men and women are fundementally different, by birth we are different, we - men learn not talk about our emotions, to be strong, to take care of our girl - while girls they learn from birth to spend our money on shoes, cloth and other useless things... okay so when i was younger, and more inmature having a problem or a figth with my girlfriend was equal to me not listening and not paying attention at all, i really couldnt care less, my level of interest in understanding the femal gender was equal to or below 0! no i realized that getting older being in a serious relationship i want to understand more - i want to understand the femal side of the problem, but i guess this is like understanding why Georg bush is still the president in the US - nobody knows. I have the same feeling, i want to understand - but i am simply incapable of understanding... it is not that i dont want to, it is just that my brain is sending the same message as from my notebook - "your brain has encountered some problems and needs to shut down - would you like to send this message.." okay where and to who can i send this message - to my partner... i dont think so! reply would be - that i dont want to understand her, that i am not interested in her, etc... which of course is not true - well not all the time anyways (during champions league however it is true..) - so what to do, well as i said i wish that i could understand my partner more, i wish that i could understand her problems better, but i cant - i wish that i could help more... but then i realized what for women is the obvious, women dont want help from their partner they just wants us to listen... in the beginning my partner told me her problems - and in seconds i told her the solutions and then lets move on, but she wasnt happy, because women knows how to deal with their problems, they just want to talk - honestly why do you think they go to the hairdresser and spend hours there... they of course discuss their problems..

so knowing that women dont want to solve anything and men always want to solve something, this is where the problems begin, so the philisophical question is "to solve or not to solve.." i choose to talk about something else, so this is the story; my partner has some problems, and i listen for some time and then i start to talk about food, or the news or the weather, because i know that she for sure doesnt want to hear my input... so rather not begin anything.. and the types of questions that women can ask you are lethal - they are good - real good!! take questions like "was your ex. better looking than me?", "was she better dressed than me", "are you in contact with her still?" etc.. not to mention the question about old performance... but i guess this is all part of the game...i guess this is the different between partner and girlfriend - my ex. girlfriends never asked me these questions, i guess they really never though about these things, but these questions are important to ask, i see it as my partner cares about me, she wants to know that she is the best thing for me, the right choice for me...so i think what i am saying is that a partner is more serious than just a girlfriend, girlfriends for me is more about short terms, while now with my partner i have to and want to accept her bad sides - to learn more about her, to understand her (i know this will never happen, remember that book, men and women are from different planets - something like that, well it is true!!)

So frankly speaking i guess i am the last person to know that i am actually starting to finally grow up, finally starting to take my relationship more serious, well i guess it happens to all of us, unless of course i chooes to become a holy person - where relationships are not even there...at least that is what i think...so i guess that point i am trying to make is that my relationship is serious and that is the reason why i no longer have a girlfriend - but a partner...wow!

okay so what does this mean for the person martin, well i guess not really a lot, i have to listen, i have to pretend at least, and i cant just walk away from my problems, when they come - we are a team now my partner and i... which reminds me of one time i was trying to explain my partner my point of view on relationships... okay first of all it has to be known that i / we had a bottle of balentines before, so we started talking about our relationship etc, and the question came from my partner,how i see it? so i started, "well you see a relationship between two people is like a symbious between two companies.." already there i should have stopped - can you picture the looks on her face.. but no it got better... "these two companies enters in an agreement to develop a product or a service together to increase their ROI and through this get a higher market share...they do this by agreeing on first what they can give and what they want in return, if what they can give and what they want in return is okay for the other company - then an agreement can be made.. maybe the companies can even merge later on..(merge migth mean more things here okay!!), if the mission of the two companies are not related then no agreement will be signed, and no symbios will be achievable..." i feel so sorry for her - this is the biggest romance killer i have ever made, however you know what happened she listen and said - interesting approach, dont you think it is time for us to go and make this merger....so we did mergering all nigth...

and this is the reason why she is my partner, because she knows my strong sides and she knows my (relatively few) weak sides... and she accepts them... and i accept her strong and weak sides... and this is for me the perfect partnership... so now i guess that our relationship has reached the point of us to start to talk about business model...

till our next time keep booging....

Oh no not again - Monday morning...

Okay let us face it, is there a worse day that mondays? for me personally i hate mondays and it does stop or begin there, oh no my friend it already starts sunday at around 16 - 17.00 - this is the time where my depressions are starting to take over my brain.. dont get me wrong it is not that i am a lazy person, okay who am i kidding!! what do i do durring my weekend, well i would love to lie to you a tell you "during the weekend i do all of the important things, that i dont have tim to do during the week!" but i rather not tell you this because that would be a big lie.. what i do during the weekend can be diffined to this, watch movies, eat, work, alternative interactions with my partner (you guess you know what that means right!) shower, sleep, eat some more, sleep some more, do some more interaction with my partner, feed my turtles (seriously i have turtles - wonderfull entertaining animals, they really bring out the father in me!), watch some more movies, work some more and then boom - sunday!!!


this is what sundays looks like to me...


So what is that i hate about sundays - well it strikes me every sunday actually funny enough never seem to be able to get use to it! - it is the absolute feeling of having wasted an entire weekend on absolutely nothing! weekends are for me the closes that i actually get / or having a holiday in the last many - many years... so i see it as my holiday, and i spend it and nothing.. so every sunday i am sitting with this feeling of "you idiot, know what did you do of importance this weekend? what did you achieve?.." answer is of course - nothing!! and this frustrates me - really bad...okay so we have established the fact that i dont like sundays because of the feeling of wasitng my weekend totally on nothing... ah so the smart reader is going something like this "so why dont you just change is - you do you just get up early in the morning..." yeah right "smile to the world and the world smiles back", i really am not that type of person, when i went to university back in Denmark - i had to get up at 5.30 in the morning to be at university at 8.30 - after doing that for a year i swore to myself that a) i would move closer to my university or b) i would leave university without a degree - i choose the first one!


So i dont change my approach to sundays because of this - nope, i dont change it because of my job and my sleeping patterns, "what a silly excuse - martin", no seriously it is true... look at it like this monday to friday - my work is from when i start till my job is over, so that means i come home late in the evening, then i spend a couple of hours relaxing, "switching - off" then i eat something, the watch the news, then i summarize my work, plan for the new day, prepare my cloth (yes i am the type of person that prepare my cloth for work the day before, it is crazy, sometimes i just think about it, other times it is on my chair before going to sleep - it is driving me insane - i got this from my mother!) the i watch a bit of other irrelevant TV then i go to sleep.. then what typically happens is that around 3 - 4.00 in the morning i wake up with an idea... and i have to write it down, concrete example - i am working on a new homepage for our company, and i couldnt really get the design rigth, the layout anything right.. so went to sleep absolutely pissed off - and around 3.30 i was up working on it.. so this week i am going to send it to our vendor - they will program it and prepare the rest, i spend god only knows how much time on it at work, and now during one night i had everything.. okay problem comes in the morning waking up after sleeping a couple of hours, doing this once a week is okay but doing this close to everyday - not very easy...so you have a-type of people, they like to get up in the morning, b-type of people doesnt like to get up in the morning, and then you have the martin-type who does like to go to sleep, and when is sleeping doesnt want to wake up - dilemma....


So you see that working as a marketing nerd is all about being creative, what can we do to improve our image? what can we do to improve our reach of clients? what happens if we change the colours? what happens if..? can we do this..? these are questions that you can sit and talk about for hours in a meeting and nothing comes out of it, our you can let your creativity work first and then do the strategies - the outcome if totally diferent... this is one of the reasons why i love my job...i get to be creative, and i get to do strategies, and i get to do the actual work.... so sundays are not for me - no sir... give me thursdays and fridays... well looking at this week - taking into consideration that there is actually only 4 working days "all saints day" is on thursday - public holiday (what a pity i have to be at home!! - i am being ironinc now!) and combine that with a day of then we are all of a sudden having something looking like a holiday... - but i promise you that you will be able to find you in front of my notebook working.. am i an workaholic... well then i guess the first step in healing myself is to admit that i am one - otherwise i live a life of lies... okay i am a bit of a workaholic - happy...? but hey if i am a workaholic i should love sundays, because a new working week is starting! wow arent you the smart one - okay okay!!! I love sundays because a new working week is starting - you are rigth! but i still hold the rights to get up in the morning - this you can not take away from me....


oh did i mention that my partner is having the alarm on at 5.45 everyday during the working week, so theoretically i am waking up at the same time everyday...it still doesnt mean i cant hate mornings.... so to all of you sunday and monday loving fanatics... keep away from me till at least of lunch time monday...


till our next time, happy monday...

More about me..

Okay so i promised that i would write some more about myself so here goes.. I was born and raised in Denmark, my family moved around alot so i guess that it was from the beginning normal that i would end up outside Denmark! - however ending up in Slovakia is a chapter in itself.. Okay so school was okay for me nothing special, entered high school like anybody else, finished it - and then came university! - for those of you having had the pleasure (or pain!) of attending university in Denmark knows that it is absolutely dead borring (at least for me - to much theory and no action!!) so i couldnt wait to finish!!! Of course the courses that i attended didnt help as well, anybody with their right mind would never study Economics or / and Pshycology like myself!! I guess i was happy that i was finally finished with my studies, couldnt really use it for anything - as my first "real" boss told me "you think that you are such a hotshot know after finished university - but let me the first to tell you that you know shit!.." that was my first day in my new and secure position as an investment banker!.. i could just feel there future there, sure i had alot of different jobs before that, this one was different - serious dressed, working with real career crackheads.. so the figth becan! i lasted that type of life - almost a year and then i was out of there...and it couldnt go fast enough!!!

After that i did some smaller projects as a consultant for a large international consulting company, learning about how to "help" companies become more successfull by firing alot of people - we called it in consulting terms - "re-structuring"! after that, i spend some years living here and there, Switzerland, England, Bosnia and Serbia.. till one day a friend of mine asked me to come to Slovakia! I dont know if it was luck, good or bad.. but i said yes (after working in Serbia i was actually planning on going back to DK - just got an offer from PWC!) so i came to Slovakia, and to begine with what a mistake, nothing at all was like it was promised: job, salary, apartment - nothing was as it was suppose to be like! - i honestly felt like i made a mistake (it happens that even i make mistakes - not to often, sometime only!) - after some time i change my job started teaching english and mathematics at a private school, after that move again back to consulting, then moved into sales, then back to consulting, so i was playing ping pong between marketing & sales and consulting!

This ping pong between these jobs - has of course given me great experience, new ways of solving problems etc. but i also gave me the opportunity to get involved with my current job in this software company that i work for now!

So all in all during the last many yrs that i have spend in other countries what have i achieved? well i spend God only knows how many days and hours on coaching and trainings of companies (so i am pretty okay with that) - i have delivered international presentation around Europe for the last 3 yrs (so i am pretty alright with that as well) for some of the most influencial companies in the world! and of course all the other soft skills that comes along!! And now finally in my free time i do motivation speeched for students, organizations, etc.. yes it is free and yes i am a person with a big heart!.. but i have to admit between you and me only, standing in front of a group of people really is the best feeling - delivering my presentation - speech!! wow this is i case what makes it all worth it!! - so i guess the choices that i have made till now has not been totally wrong!!

My position is as i already mentioned as the head marketing nerd... meaning i have to make sure that our company increases its value as much as posible and as soon as posible.. pretty easy job, when my budget is less than what i use for food in 1 month! - okay it is not that bad...so this position has taugth me and is forcing me to be more creative, think totally out of the box in terms of how to position a company! and taking into accout that it is a software company, just makes it so much more intense!!!

okay so what i especially want to share with you is my work days in our company - for those of you that are in marketing or planning to get into it.. you might want to have a look here, maybe i can give you some ideas...

Oh and i guess that i dont really mind school that much - because i actually ended up getting a MBA as well - okay are you impressed :-) dont be i was there and it really was a total waste of time for me!!

okay this is it for this time, till next time Salam...

Introducing myself..

Good morning, good afternoon, goodday...

well welcome to my blog - this is my actual first attempt to enter the 21st century, the modern ways of communicating has finally reached my door.. and it was i guess a matter before i had to react to these changes as well. So ones again welcome!

To make it short - dont worry i will share alot more details with you in the future.. my name is Martin, i am currently 29 yrs, recently turned in September. I am living in Slovakia, more concrete in Bratislava (capital city - makes me sometimes wonder if this is the capital city any city can become capital city!) anyways i have been living here for some yrs now, i am starting to speak the language - eventhough this is for me an original dane a crazy language (reminds me of an episode of ichy and scratchy from the simpsons!!). Well coming from Denmark living in slovakia, working in a IT company as the CMO (this is fancy appriviation for "the marketing nerd"...) how could it ever come this far... well this is a very long story and this story i will share with you - and many more stories.. stories of my ups and downs (i guess these are the best ones), i will take you through my stress, my frustrations, my professional life - and my personal life, i will be the end of the day try to give you an idea about who i am - and maybe you can answer one question for me: "is it worth it?"

Okay let us not get to deep on our first date!!! what it my mission (if i can have one when it comes to a blog!!) is to share my experience, and knowledge with you, and hopefully you will not think i am totally crazy and you might even want to share some of your knowledge with me!

i will try to post something new every week! - maybe i will become addicted to sharing my private life with complete strangers that i will post more then just once a week!!!

so for give me some time to figure out how this all works....

till our next time salut..